How does one promote the culture of recognition? Is the modern day pat on the back replaced by the praising of another person's praise to the subject all through the email ? Does it make one wanna feel heartened or does it make one fear such public recognition, especially if lots of self-help sounding terms are being used?
I know I would rather receive praise in private for small achievements done and perhaps a trophy for a job truly well done. But the common theory of scolding in private and praising in public don't work exactly for me in this case. Guess I am more for receiving praise in confidence... especially if it involves lots of "theoretical" sounding lines, simply sounds very contrived to me. Also, public praise sometimes pose the danger of being used as a tool to humble or insult some other people who are on the spot. Imagine this.
"See, Jene can do it so well, how come you cannot?" or "good job Jene .. *turns to another* why is this so substandard? Take a cue from Jene lar" ....
Anyway, in my opinion, praising is meant to motivate and make someone feel good. So if those objectives cannot be achieved, I suspect the praise might not always be good, whatever those textbooks say.
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i guess the key is sincerity? Whether in public or in confidence, u want to be sincerely appreciated for the work you've done.
In your illustrated situation when the praise is used to demean somebody else, it makes one feel uncomfortable as it seems like a 'jie dao sha ren' (aka borrow knife to kill someone) situation. So that kinda takes the sincerity out of the praise...
then is it considered sincere if a person is praised, then forwarded to a host of other people to tell them that they should praise promptly and publicly? I think the intention was good but the outcome becomes dubious, i.e. it's not clear if the original praise is all that sincere?
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